by Christel | May 15, 2022 | Podcast
Healing the Mother Wound & My journey from being Motherless to feeling deeply and completely loved by the Great Mother.
*TRIGGER WARNING* includes my story of parental addiction, abuse and domestic violence.
I’m Christel Arcucci. You’re listening to the Embody Wealthy Podcast. The lightning path for world-changing women to receive millions, embody wealthy, and create the life you imagine aligned with the greater good.
If you are interested in working with me, please visit www.EmbodyYourLegacy.com to learn about upcoming programs and coaching opportunities.
Let’s begin with my intention. I’m sharing my journey of being motherless to illuminate why the foundation of my soul-work personally and professionally is to repair and integrate the wounded masculine and wounded feminine within in order to embody the divine union of masculine and feminine essence as your magic power in life, love and business.
I will read a self-guided soul retrieval that I wrote when I was 19 then go into a sensual hypnosis journey to help you heal the self abandonment, self sabotage, self attack, people-pleasing, over-giving tendencies of the Martyr mother archetype that can result from growing up in the dominant and dysfunctional culture and or growing up in a dysfunctional household with mental health issue such as addiction, neglect or abuse.
At the time of this recording in May 2022, I am 49.
The short story of my childhood is, both of my parents where alcoholics and my father got sober when I was 12. My mother’s alcoholism in her second marriage started as a dysfunctional relationship that quickly escalated into being abusive.
I asked for her help in managing the situation with my step-dad and she denied there was a problem.
I’ve been estranged from my mother since I was 14, after I moved out of her house and moved in with my father, who gave me a safe place to start a supported healing process.
My mother she and her family told me I was no longer her daughter. I was not their family.
This was an incredibly challenging time as I was becoming a young woman to have my mother tell me I was no longer her daughter.
I want you to know is that your story my story can be shared In so many ways and while there are many aspects of this writing that I would change now because now I tell a different story not because the facts of the event changed but because I feel so differently about losing my mother.
For many years, I felt devastated. I felt abandoned and betrayed that she chose him instead of me.
In my mid-30s, as I was beginning my public speaking career, I realized I had left. She choose to tell disown me as daughter, but I choose me by leaving a dysfunctional and abusive environment with parents that were mentally ill. My mother and stepfather were drinking too much The situation went from bad to worse after I left and she ended up getting beaten up many times, with broken ribs and hospital visits and at one point she was sleeping with a gun under her pillow on the couch in order to protect herself from her husband.
When I would tell people I was estranged from my mother but they would tell me I needed to repair and restore the relationship or I would regret it. For many years, I let people project their issues onto me and judge my choices. I let them shame me, make me feel like a terrible daughter, and wrong for a choice that I knew was best for me.
Clear boundaries with dysfunctional and mentally ill people as a way of choosing my health in order to do the inner healing needed to create a secure attachment with myself and others in my life.
Healing the Mother Wound & Father Wound supports each person to dance with masculine and feminine essence you are created from.
They often correlate feminine and masculine energies only with gender. This exploration has nothing to do with how you express the dynamic dance of masculine and feminine in your body and life.
My intention is to inspire you to reclaim your power and create and maintain clear boundaries with yourself and others. End the cycles of self neglect, self abandonment, self sabotage, self attack, stop people-pleasing, and over-giving by exploring re-parenting from the Divine Mother and Divine Father with inner archetype healing.
It’s time to create a secure, healthy, loving relationship with yourself and others.
Now for the soul retrieval writing and into the sensual hypnosis recode.
“Look at the child with a dream in her eyes, holding it deep inside her.”
Sarah McLachlan
Let us begin,
by cleansing the inner child,
tending to her broken heart.
Healing her broken spirit.
It’s time for a Rebirth
to become a child of the Earth.
I must not pretend for I know you see the moon before your eyes ah yes, the pain of childhood and the trauma of life.
The beginning, the opening, the slow of death in developing into who you really are.
I’m standing beside her with the childhood dress on. She’s holding my hand. She’s hard and as cold as stone, with only the warmth of blood to warm her skin.
The tears roll down my face. She looks straightforward. She seems not to hear nor feel the sobbing pounding in my heart.
She doesn’t notice the emotion or anything I feel.
Can’t she see, hear, or feel?
I’m calling out to her in desperate fear, “mother?”
Screaming for her help.
“Mother?!” but she doesn’t hear.
I tug on her hand and look up to her in despair, “mother?”
She does not dare to move. It’s like she’s frozen.
I wonder if there’s anyone alive in there.
I look around to see you so many of them not looking, not seeing, not feeling.
I’m not sure which…
What is really going on here?
I don’t understand this place called Earth. This life experiment of being human.
I feel. I see.
I know what’s behind your eyes, no matter how hard you may try not to let me.
I see you. I feel you.
I cannot pretend.
I will not pretend.
“Hey you! Can you hear me in there?” I call out in a fury. I cause a great commotion, waving my free arm, screaming and crying, but so many of them don’t even notice me.
There are a few who really see.
They see what’s behind my eyes, but as soon as they do, they look away and pretend they never saw me…
Oh the pain, who are these people and why don’t they listen or help or heal?
They are completely foreign to me. In my fury, I realize I am a child and the entire world believes this woman should take care of me. I cannot escape……yet! And I cannot give myself everything I need.
As the years pass, I stand beside her, holding her hand.
I am as hard as and cold as stone.
My face shows no emotion.
My eyes show nothing but distance.
Only my heart will burn inside of me, waiting for the day I will be free.
Slowly, her grip will loosen.
I lie in bed at night in the shadows with only my teddy bear to soothe my heart. And I silently cry myself to sleep with James pulled close to me, “One day James, we will be free somewhere out there where none of them can find us.”
The years passed on and now I stand upon the Mountain, the winds whip around me, the moon shines down upon me and my hands are FREE!
I remember that child with the dream in her eyes and I raise my hands to the Heavens and my heart weeps, the tears stream down my face and I whisper, “Mother….”
“Yes, dear child. What do you need?” I hear her reply.
My soul is restored.
I fall to my knees and I hold my hands over my heart and I feel the first sputtered breaths of life.
The hands of the earth hold me, caress me, feel me, love me and heal my body with her healing love.
I feel the power and light rise and the tears of joy release.
Now I shall walk again and fly beyond the limits of mind.
The sun warms my back, so I turn to feel the warmth of the sun on my face.
I shift my body and feel what it holds and become ready to dance through this life.
Now that I realize I am home.
Mother Earth has been there loving me all along.
She is always holding me, guiding me, healing me, feeling me, feeding me, loving me and mothering me.
Thank you Mother.
Jai Ma.
(Sensual Hypnosis not included in transcription)
Thank you for being here. It’s a pleasure to co-create and embody wealthy with you.
You’re listening to the Embody Wealthy Podcast. The lightning path for world-changing women to receive millions, embody wealthy, and create the life you imagine in service to love.
You can access the all episodes of the podcast and all the goodies mentioned in this episode at www.desiresessionspodcast.com/14
If you are interested to explore embody wealthy mentorship options, please visit www.embodyyourlegacy.com to fill out an application.
I believe in you and the magic power of your soul.
For more revolutionary teachings and tools please follow on your favorite podcast app or visit www.desiresessionspodcast.com I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.
I am sending you so much love!
by Christel | Apr 8, 2022 | Podcast
I remember you, we’ve met before in another time and place and we’re meeting here and now for a make millions recode in order to access your desire and amplify your creative soul fire, here and now.
I’m Christel Arcucci, you’re listening to the Embody Wealthy Podcast, the lightning path for world-changing women to make millions, embody wealthy, and create the life you imagine in aligned with the greater good.
If you are interested to explore working with me please visit www.EmbodyYourLegacy.com to learn about upcoming programs and mentorship opportunities.
Today’s session is a make millions Akashic recode. It is incredibly rare in our world that a woman owned business makes $1 million a year and I am here to change that.
This session is a combination of erotic vocal alchemy, hypnosis and an Akashic recode integrating the power of word, breath and sound.
I invite you to make yourself luxuriously comfortable and as supported as possible.
Let your breath move without any effort as if you are being breathed.
Breath moving in.
Breath moving out.
Inhale and exhale.
No effort.
No struggle.
No time.
Simply being in this moment, following the sound of my voice guiding you deeper and deeper into your body, into your breath, into your soul desire.
Your mind may jump up and down and try to make you run in circles if that happens, just notice the wild monkey mind playing its games. Notice its energy it’s movement and simply observe and continue to feel your body being breathed.
Inhale and Exhale.
Receiving and releasing.
Inhale and exhale.
Receiving and centering.
Here and now.
Yes. Now, that you’re more present in your experience.
Now that you are more familiar with my voice.
Now that you are trusting your higher guidance and wisdom to support the unfolding of your impossible dreams.
They’re not so impossible, in fact they were given to you those wild dreams of what seems impossible.
Yes yes yes, you are feeling and knowing that more is possible now than ever.
One simple breath at the time you can fuel those streams bring them into being.
Watering the seeds of your desire one breath and a time.
Receiving and releasing.
Non-linear and spiral your circle swerve and circulate your vital energy, your will, your life force fueling your dreams, fueling your creative projects.
Fueling your vision of the world and what you would like it to be.
You are given these visions for a reason. You are given these desires to play with.
Playing with your desire.
Playing with the energy whether it feels like paint on your fingertips or oil you are smoothing onto your skin or sandpaper smoothing down a wood object.
Creative desire. Soul power fueled by your willingness to be in flow with the future you want to create through now.
Here and now.
This body, this breath, this moment, this opportunity.
Any resistance to playing in the game money, wealth, luxury, affluence moving out with the exhale like tiny specs of sand integrating into the great infinite ocean of consciousness.
Given back to source.
Believing here and now in the possibility of creating your desire, of allowing life force energy to fuel your desire, allowing money and resources to come into your life, your bank accounts, your business, fueling your creative desire.
Fueling your will to create in-service to the greater good and in service to love and truth.
Those wild visions?
Yes yes yes, your wild divisions taking aligned actions each day to create new opportunities, new collaborations, new connections.
Your life is your greatest masterpiece, your passion is yours to express and explore.
Your power, your pleasure are becoming more aligned, more awaken and in-service to human embodied awakening.
Divinity and humanity dancing together.
Light and dark.
Sun and moon.
Winter, spring, summer and autumn.
Cycling, circling, creating awakening, awakening, awakening.
Here and now.
The channel of receiving is open.
The channel of offering is open.
In your body receiving, from your body offering.
From a place of fullness and abundance you are offering.
Open to receiving what turns you on.
Open to receiving what lights you up.
Learning to receive.
Receive challenges life offers.
Noticing the opportunity to play with the challenges life offers. Knowing that your life, your experience is your medicine, your soul desire to explore being human in this life.
You are opening, perhaps wildly, perhaps slowly, whatever pace you need.
You are opening to receive-receive-receive-millions-millions-millions just as easily as you’re breathing in and breathing out.
Receiving and offering.
Receiving and releasing.
Rising and falling.
Day and night.
So easy and sometimes even in the struggle you find yourself laughing knowing it’s another opportunity to play in this while the mess called human life.
oh yes oh yes oh yes sometimes it is so fun to be the hot mess.
You find yourself easily much more easily excepting the wide variety of characters you play even those forbidden aspects and parts of yourself that you wish didn’t exist in the past.
Now you know how to play the game: yes and.
Yes and.
Yes and what will you create?
Yes and what is this invitation?
Yes and what is this madness?
This earth school experience?
It’s so much easier to experience delight in it now, isn’t it?
To make so much money that you can create all of your wildest fantasies, you also know that money is not the only answer.
Millions of opportunities.
Millions of resources.
A global network of world-changing humans working together.
A global network of world-changing humans collaborating, connecting, co-creating together.
Oh yes, so good so delicious and sometimes dangerous to that old status quo.
Sometimes it’s so fun to wildly imagine that even more is possible.
Receiving and offering.
Make millions.
Access your desire.
Create a life that is even more than you could’ve ever Imagined. Creative life force activation, soul contacts, remembering, soul family reunion here and now connecting through time and space.
Opening, receiving, opening, offering.
Inhale and Exhale.
Opening and closing.
Clear boundaries are essential.
Accepting, receiving, acknowledging, appreciating.
It’s not always as it appears, yet demand in your own soul clarity to know the truth, to align with love and remember that love is the power to create and destroy.
Create and destroy.
Create, live and die is all part of the cycle.
Receiving and offering.
Receiving and releasing.
Destruction is an essential part of the cycle and the old way of destroying it’s no longer happening.
Fueling the creative fire aligned with love.
Fueling the creative fire in service to the greater good.
Inhale receiving, exhale releasing.
The mind knows no bounds.
The monkey mind, chasing your tail, how funny.
Receiving your millions.
Creating your millions.
Making millions.
So pleasurable, so effortless, so enjoyable such a great adventure, here and now.
And returning returning returning feeling your body sensing your breath, knowing your soul awakening unfolds even after our time together here.
I remember you.
I know you.
I believe in you.
Thank you for being here.
Thank you for being here, it’s a pleasure to co-create and embody wealthy with you.
You’re listening to the Embody Wealthy Podcast, the lightning path for world-changing women to make millions, embody wealthy, and create the life you imagine in service to love.
You can access the all episodes of the podcast and all the goodies mentioned in this episode at desiresessionspodcast.com/13
If you are interested to explore embody wealthy mentorship options please visit www.embodyyourlegacy.com to fill out an application.
I believe in you and the magic power of your soul.
For more revolutionary teachings and tools please follow on your favorite podcast app or visit desiresessionspodcast.com I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.
I am sending you so much love!
by Christel | Mar 31, 2022 | Podcast
Money is a loaded subject, oh yes! This episode is a public declaration of my purpose to embody wealthy as I guide and support world-changing women to make millions in service to love.
I’m Christel Arcucci, you’re listening to the Embody Wealthy Podcast, the lightning path for world-changing women to make millions, embody wealthy, and create the life you imagine in aligned with to the greater good.
If you are interested in exploring working with me, please visit www.EmbodyYourLegacy.com to learn about upcoming programs and coaching opportunities.
Welcome to today’s deep dive into pain and pleasure and how to use them to create the life you imagine.
You may have noticed the name of the podcast has changed from the sole purpose podcast to the embody wealthy podcast.
What does embody wealthy mean?
Embody wealthy focuses on awakening in and through your body, not by trying to transcend your body or the struggle and challenges of human experience.
Being human includes pain and pleasure, and an extreme spectrum of what it’s like to be human in this time in history. The challenges of being human and your pain body are the focus of shadow body integration. While your pleasure. Is the focus of pleasure body activation.
This podcast focuses on how you can use everything, yes everything, every experience, every ecstasy, every tragedy and everything in between as fuel for your creative fire to embody your version of wealthy.
First, that means you have to discover what embody wealthy looks and feels like for you and clear away the beliefs the trauma, the cultural indoctrination that keeps you from discover what you want, asking for what you want, and receiving what you want.
Discover. Ask. Receive.
Let me say that again since, especially for women, this golden trifecta will unlock the wealthy, health and great love you desire to create.
Discover what you want.
Ask for what you want.
Receive what you want.
What is shadow body integration and pleasure body activation?
Shadow body integration is learning to be with the intensity of experience that lives inside your body, mind, heart and soul. To deeply receive your experience while minimizing resistance.
Feeling is healing even if you don’t like it.
The world is really intense right now and the dominant cultural conditioning gives you a very narrow spectrum of what you “should” feel comfortable experiencing.
Shadow body integration is the practice of being where you are, sitting in the soup of your human-ness and skillfully navigate without trying to get rid of the mess or pretend it isn’t happening.
Shadow body integration offers tools to look your shadow and the collective shadow in the eyes and not turn away but instead to use the intensity of shadow, pain, challenges and problems in your life and in the world as fuel for your creative soul fire.
On the opposite side of the spectrum, women often have limited a very capacity to experience pleasure like it’s this forbidden taboo. Oh, that’s right, it is in many traditions taboo for a woman to experience pleasure, especially in her body, her sensuality and sexuality.
For a woman, it’s a sacred act of rebellion to know what you desire, ask for what you desire, and receive what you desire.
Not from the boss-bade wounded masculine burnout mode of overdrive and overwhelm, but from a deep connected space of knowing and integrating your feminine essence aligned with your inner masculine presence and protection.
Practice increasing your capacity to know what turns you on, ask for what lights you up and then delight in receiving your desire.
Shadow body integration and pleasure body activation are two wings of the bird dependent upon each other to soar through embodying your version of great love, vibrant health, and abundant wealth in order to create the life you imagine in service to love.
A key element to reset is that you do not have to sacrifice, compromise or play small or believe the dominant program and cultural conditioning that you are not good enough, not worthy and don’t deserve tot thrive and enjoy your life.
You deserve to create the wealth, health and love you imagine and even more than you can imagine.
Embody wealthy is not a Pollyanna version of you can have it all with no Issues in life.
The focus is being able to navigate the messiness of being human, riding the energies of fucking chaos of what’s happening in the world now and learning to use it all to fuel your creative fire to light you up.
Stop resisting challenges.
Skillfully surf the waves, ride the chaos, weather the storm.
You are the waves, chaos, and storm.
Be the woman that is a living embodiment of your pleasurable purpose.
How can you Embody Wealthy today? No matter what the reasons are that your mind says you cannot, you’re not ready. You don’t deserve it. It’s dangerous. You don’t make enough money. You are not skinny enough, curvy enough, smart enough, young enough, old enough. Grew up in the wrong side of town, didn’t go to the right school or get the right job.
Blah Blah Blah.
Take gentle breath, place your hand on your heart and the other on your belly and say:
I believe in you. I love you. I know what you’ve been through and I know what you’re capable of. In this moment, I take back my pleasure power and live in alignment with my values.
I take daily actions aligned in service to love.
What does making millions have to do with it?
Why does this have to be about money?
I have been a spiritual practitioner since my near death experience (NDE) at 6 months old and took part in many spiritual communities for over 35 years.
The dominant paradigm of spirituality and money being incompatible and not allowed to be discussed in the same sentence is insane!
I am here to transform the myth that money is not spiritual because I believe that when you align your spiritual values with your soul purpose, speak your truth with love power, that money can transform what’s fucked up about humanity.
You may wonder why I am making this public declaration and how close I am to making $1 million in a year.
I have never made $1 million in one year and never cared much bout becoming a millionaire.
I have sold millions in products and services in my career.
I’ve helped women make millions and become millionaires and I’ve helped businesses make Millions.
Yet I was telling myself a story that my business wasn’t good enough because mentors I have worked with have been in business less than half the time I have or even less than 10 year and THEY are making $10M per year or even $6M in 2 months. So why would any own hire me instead of them?
BOOM
I saw the core issue that many of my clients struggle with: not being good enough + being stuck in the persecution story that I will be killed/burned at the stake or cast out for speaking my truth of wanting to create a global network of soul-centered women millionaires.
I have never made $1 million in one year, so why am I declaring this so publicly?
Making millions in one year is an outrageous intention and making it public and not being afraid of failing.
My intention for sharing this is to show being a woman that is unapologetically discovering my desire, claiming my desire and reaching my desire of a million dollar per year business.
I am also not attached to this happening in 2022, although I am taking daily aligned action to create the systems and structure aligned with my soul in order for this to happen.
No matter what happens, I am creating the impact I desire and getting out of my own way and transforming the soul blocks that are slowing me down from my mission to help 100,000 women make millions in service to love.
If I do if I do not reach $1 million in a year, I’m still gonna fucking celebrate!
I’m going to celebrate that I claim my desire and shared the journey to inspire you.
I will make $1 million in one year. I’m taking action in alignment with my desire and I am open to receive $1M per year.
I can feel the path and momentum that my desire is creating, and I’m inviting you to join me with your own outrageous desire.
The reality of me making $1 million per year in my business means helping a lot of other women make millions, which is a win-win for the greater good.
It’s impossible for me to fail since the intention of doing business in service to love will reward me with more than I can even imagine.
I know, without a doubt, my business will generate millions per year.
I feel it. I know it. And so it is.
What if I fail in my make millions experiment?
What if you could change your mind about rejection and failure being a good thing in your life?
Here’s your invitation to build resilience through a rejection and failure practice.
What the what? did I say rejection and failure practice?
Yes, I did.
What that means is that you practice extending yourself beyond your comfort zone daily and actively keep asking until you find for the edge where people will say no.
This isn’t about badgering people until they say no, it’s about taking risks and asking bigger, more life-changing questions and removing your fear of rejection and failure.
I know this is a stretch because most of you have decided that rejection and failure are a bad thing to be avoided at all costs.
I want you to see feel and know how rejection and failure are essential to your success.
When you were a kid, you were more willing to fail when we learned something new: walking, talking, eating, writing, and riding a bike.
When you’re learning to walk, you fall down hundreds of times before you can walk across the room and the same thing was true with running or riding a bike. You will fail and to practice playfully expanding your abilities until you mastered a new skill.
Think about eating on your own… you can food all over the place and felt like a massive success when you got a single bit in your mouth.
Let’s restore that same sense of innocence and play to your life and business now.
In childhood, you consistently played at the edge of your comfort zone.
But somewhere along the way you learned that rejection and failure should be avoided.
How can you change your mind and decide that rejection and failure are practices to work on every day in order to expand your comfort zone and expand your capacity?
When you reach the end of your comfort zone and keep going, you discover the rejection and failure are actually a positive since they help you to become the best version of yourself. They guide you to achieve your dreams and goals and create success in your life on your terms.
I invite you to make rejection and failure a daily practice.
Building your failure and rejection muscles is like building any muscles. You work on them in small doses, a few reps at a time and even once they are strong, you keep training them to maintain your strength.
Posting on social media is one level of challenge. Yet a bigger, harder challenge comes when you reached out to someone, you know, in real life and they don’t even reply how much your mind will make up stories about what that means. I’m broken. I’m unlovable. I’m not important. And nobody cares about me.
Boo hoo. Poor me.
Ouch!
Your mind will make up stories about what that means: “I am broken, I am unlovable, I am not important, and nobody cares about me. Boo how, poor me.”
The rejection and failure practice is focused on extending out from the heart and not being attached to the outcome or response, which is not easy, yet the more you practice the easier it becomes.
When you are clear about the kinds of connections you want to create and why, it becomes easier it is to let go of attachment to the outcome.
When you extend beyond your comfort zone knowing that you are building the rejection and failure muscles, which will serve and support your life and purpose.
When you can change your mind about rejection and failure, you will create success with ease and grace.
Become willing to fail.
Change your story about rejection and failure.
Make being rejected a daily practice.
Make it playful.
Refuse to let the results take you down.
You can change your mind and change your life by reaching the edge of your capacity and comfort zone to keep going.
Just like building any muscle when you regularly do the rejection and failure practice and refuse to collapse or fall into the downward spiral, you will confidently expand your capacity and confidence and become unstoppable.
Build your capacity and strength in order to create success.
Once you’re done with this practice for a period of time, you will be more confident and have greater courage in taking bigger risks, reaching for bigger goals and therefore unfazed by rejection and failure.
Fear of rejection and failure will no longer stop you or keep you playing small in your life
Thank you for being here. It’s a pleasure to co-create and embody wealthy with you.
You’re listening to the Embody Wealthy Podcast, the lightning path for world-changing women to make millions, embody wealthy, and create the life you imagine in service to love.
You can access the all episodes of the podcast and all the goodies mentioned in this episode at desiresessionspodcast.com/12
If you are interested to explore embody wealthy mentorship options, please visit www.embodyyourlegacy.com to fill out an application.
I believe in you and the magic power of your soul.
For more revolutionary teachings and tools please follow on your favorite podcast app or visit desiresessionspodcast.com I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.
I am sending you so much love!
by Christel | Dec 31, 2021 | Podcast
How can you actively take part in creating the future you desire?
This episode highlights the practice of future casting, which is an active collaboration with spoken word, breath, sound, and energy healing.
I’m Christel Arcucci. You’re listening to the Soul Purpose Podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people pleasing, create healthy boundaries, reclaim power, and live your soul purpose legacy.
How is this different from the law of attraction teachings? (LOA) While I agree that our energy and attention create momentum.
If you’re stuck in the looping patterns of your mind, it’s difficult to move into a different energy frequency.
With future casting, you are actively participating and feeling your body and breathing your breath and speaking your dreams out loud. It becomes infinitely easier to get out of the habitual tracks that have set in your mind and in your emotional body and in your physical body.
Thank you for being here, it’s a pleasure to walk the soul purpose path with you.
You’re listening to the soul purpose podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people pleasing, create healthy boundaries, reclaim power, and live your soul purpose legacy.
You can access the Free Soul Success Journal & meditation and all episodes of the podcast and all the goodies mentioned in this episode at soulpurposepodcast.com/11
If you are interested in exploring soul purpose mentorship options with me visit soulpurposepath.com to fill out an application.
I believe in you and the magic power of your soul.
For more revolutionary teachings and tools, please follow on your favorite podcast app or visit soulpurposepodcast.com. I look forward to connecting with you in the next episode.
I am sending you so much love!
by Christel | Dec 19, 2021 | Podcast
The Practice of Embodied Soul Purpose is the ability to distinguish between intuition guiding your choices or anxiety running your life.
I’m Christel Arcucci, you’re listening to the Soul Purpose Podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people pleasing, create healthy boundaries, reclaim power, and live your soul purpose legacy.
I based this podcast upon the assumption that every adult has experienced trauma int their life. Trauma can include events that are obviously difficult, like a car accident, illness or injury, a pet dying, having surgery, giving birth, death of a loved one, divorce, buying a house, losing a job, being bullied or getting robbed. The struggles of your own or a loved ones addiction, or a history of abuse or abandonment.
Trauma also includes events that FELT traumatic and may have been dismissed as “no big deal.” Like being left with a baby sitter, not getting a part in the 1st grade play, or being told you can’t sing. On the surface these events can be easily overlooked yet they may leave traumatic imprints.
The level of trauma in the body, mind, and heart all depends on how you learn to regulate your nervous system during and after a traumatic event.
I believe everyone has trauma to unwind and integrate.
A key component of embodied trauma integration practice is learning to distinguish between your intuitive body wisdom guiding your choices and your pain body wounding running your life.
Keep in mind your pain body wounding is not bad or wrong, you are not broken for struggling with anxiety or depression, the hardest life lessons are often the greatest teachers. The key teaching of this podcast is to recognize when the pain body is hijacking your brain is trying to convince you that it is in charge and the CEO of your life.
Let’s start to distinguish choices from your intuitive body that are low importance and how your wounding, survival strategy or the mind’s override mechanism will try to derail and control you.
The reason this happens is because your mind is literally designed to keep you in safety, which means keep you in what is familiar, even if it’s unhealthy.
As Carl Jung said, “until you make your unconscious, conscious it will rule your life and you will call it fate.”
Your task, should you choose to accept the challenge is to face your shadows and learn the inner landscape of programming vs transformational change.`
First practice is getting dressed in the morning or planning your outfits at night. Take a moment and a deep soul body breath to ground and connect your mind, body, and heart. Feel your feet on the floor, take a deep breath, gently move your body and bounce to bring your awareness from mind down into your heart, down into your hips.
Listen to episode 5 for more information the soul body breath practice.
Stand in front of your closet and ask, “what is the best color or outfit to wear tomorrow in order to step into my greatest soul-centered power?” Or change the request to speak directly to your desired experience or outcome. “In order to generate more money.” “In order to enjoy delightful collaboration with my clients or partners” name the specific outcome or experience you want to have that day.
Keep breathing and notice what your mind says and notice what your body guides you to.
Often you will have an exciting first inspiration yet your mind may try to logic you out of taking action since your brain is wired to keep you safe by keeping your life and choices familiar even if it’s unhealthy and or you are unhappy.
When your mind is disconnected from your heart and intuitive body wisdom your wounded parts will try to lead, this is not meant to demonize your mind. When your mind is disconnected from the heart and body wisdom, it can tell you all manner of stories that are not true, supportive or rooted in intuitive body wisdom or intuition. So at first when you start this practice the mind is going to try and take control, “listen to me, I’m the boss.”
Making healing choices from a deeply rooted connection takes time and practice. Be an observer when you’re standing in front of your closet and ask who is leading?
Love or fear?
Intuition or anxiety?
Intuitive body wisdom or pain body wounding?
Getting dressed in the morning there is no great risk, nothing is at stake if you follow general protocol yet still allow yourself to play.
After you ask the question and then listen, listen, listen.
Open your mind to how you receive the guidance, some people will hear words, some will want to scan your clothes with your eyes or hands until you feel it, others will have a deep knowing.
Here’s an example:
My mind says: wear the teal colored dress.
My intuitive body says: wear the the coral skirt, and purple top.
Take a breath. Pause. Listen to voices and explore the feeling signature of each voice and its essence in the moment.
Is it love or fear?
Is it intuition or anxiety?
When you start this practice you may experience discomfort in listening to your intuitive animal body wisdom.
As I selected this random example just imaging standing in front of my closet my mind said, “Wait, those are really bold colors together, do they even go together? What’s going on?” Even this is a made up example my mind is overriding the intuitive guidance yet I have done enough practice to know the difference between wounding and wisdom.
As I build trust in my intuition, I’m going to trust myself and make this choice to wear this outfit and go on with my day.
Eating is another great place to experiment with this practice. When you sit down to eat or choosing what you’re going to have for a meal. Ask your intuitive body from a place of deep connection.
Become anchored in your place of connection by taking deep breaths, feeling your body, recognize where you are in time and space, then ask, “What can I eat for lunch, that will support the highest expression of my body, mind and soul right today? Or to boost my immune system or help me feel clear and awake?”
If you’re choosing from a menu or choosing from your refrigerator, pay attention to what your mind says and what your intuitive body says.
These two practices are a great place to start, as you become aware of what you wear and what you eat and notice how often your Intuitive body and the override mechanism of your mind pull you into different directions.
The next stage of unwinding, healing and learning is to distinguish between wounding and wisdom would be in attending certain events, going to a party, an event or meeting someone new.
If you are in a phase of deep trauma where there’s a fear of going out, there can be healthy fear that comes from wisdom, and then there’s wounded fear that comes from trauma, the pain body and wounding.
Fear is not bad so be careful not to automatically connect feeling afraid with wounding. It’s important in your healing that you learn what emotions, feelings and sensations are rooted in truth vs where you can stretch yourself to expand your comfort zone.
Make it your practice to discover where and when to challenge yourself in a way that is rooted in wisdom and not in wounding because the wounded fear will push you to do things when the cost is too great.
I have unknowingly pushed myself too far many times when attending workshops, trainings or business events when I’ve said, “you have to go, you’re gonna miss out, you need this information, if you don’t get this information your business will fail.”
Okay, that was a really good example of wounded fear driving. You can feel and hear the FOMO and threats present in that example of self talk.
When I was working on this in my own practice many years ago I was attending a lot of business events. Most of those events were in hotel conference rooms with recycled air, fluorescent lights with no windows, tight seating back in the day. When we used to do that with 50 to 500 people, the is not my ideal environment, it’s hard on me.
I was actively working on this intuitive body healing practice to restore my intuition I would negotiate with myself, and use my inner guidance to help me select the best choice for the outcome I desired.
For example if there is a two day business building event I am considering attending, I connect my breath with my body-mind, to decide if I was even going to the event by asking, “will this event support me and my business to create a bigger impact and make more money?”
If the answer is yes, then I would choose which sessions to attend based on my intuitive body wisdom. There were generally morning and afternoon sessions sometimes evening sessions with lunch and dinner break.
Examples of how I plan my day, I would attend the morning session and then leave after lunch, or I would show up at the end of the lunch break and attend the afternoon session.
Sometimes I would be guided to walk out in the middle of a session, sit on the sun, or walk around the block, and then come back for the next session. I let my intuition guide me and it became easy to distinguish when wounding or fear was trying to control me.
Yes, I was missing information yet as I rebuilt trust with my intuition I always ended up hearing the information I most needed or magically meeting someone to collaborate with on a project I was working on.
The FOMO fear/wounding voice would jump in and declare, “if you don’t attend EVERYTHING your business is going to fail.”
My bone deep intuitive animal body says, “that is not accurate information. You are speaking from fear and wounding, no thank you.”
The intuition and wisdom body is not rooted in fear, it’s not an urgent, emergency type of feeling when you receive guidance.
When my intuition is guiding me and it is actually an emergency it feels grounded, rooted, clear, firm, direct, kind yet confident.
The fear and wounding voice uses, threats, shame, FOMO and false urgency.
As you practice you will begin to recognize the fear program and rebuild trust instead.
I want to restate this teaching in another way to make sure it lands since this is often life changing for my clients once they get it in their bones.
If we go back to the business events example. Pause, breathe, feel your feet on the floor and anchor yourself in the present time and say, “honey. I love you, and I’ll be at the sessions that I need to be at.” I trust that what I need it’s available and will be provided when I need it.”
When you’re in a place of deep connection body, mind, heart and soul you’re rooted in your being, what you need, shows up.
The soul body breath practice is helping you weave your body, mind and heart together. In order to notice when and how your trauma and wounding pulls you off center.
Soul body, breath and present moment awareness helps anchor you in trust, connection, willingness to face hardships, shadow aspects, wounds and being okay with the things that you miss out on.
This practice will help you to choose what you attend or what you do. Each time you consciously select the places that you stretch and challenge yourself for positive and empowered choice you are healing your entire animal body intuitive system
Stretch yourself in ways that it’s easier to heal, think about increasing trust in your intuitive body like increasing your physical capacity. If you are learning to do the splits and can’t even go halfway down, it would be unwise to overriding my body’s limits and wisdom forcing yourself into the splits on the first day.
If you have perfectionist tendencies keep in mind and heart that you will not do this perfectly and forcing yourself with an override approach would likely get you injured, but take your time with patience, sensitivity and persistence every day you will increase your capacity and restore your intuitive animal body wisdom.
Journal prompts (visit Soulpurposepodcast.com for a printable version)
I encourage you to write without stopping and without editing. The answers are your perspective and experience, there’s no right or wrong, yet the practice itself often highlights your personal relationship with wounding and wisdom, intuition and anxiety,
What’s the difference between wounding and wisdom?
Write a magical example of your intuitive body?
How does your pain body trick you into thinking it’s the CEO?
How can you tell the difference?
Wounding:
Contraction/hardening/urgency/frenetic energy/demanding/bossy/shaming/making wrong/either or thinking/controlling
Wisdom:
Solid/confident/grounded/quiet/clear/knowing/certain/grounded/kind/focused/unconditionally loving/having choice
Wisdom is knowing how far to go.
Wounding is shaming yourself for making a mistake.
Just like if you have a yoga practice that wisdom of knowing how far to go in a pose.
Wisdom is trusting yourself and to challenge yourself when not to challenge yourself, so that you’re anchoring our choices from a place of wisdom, and not from wounding because when your make choices and push ourselves and challenges ourselves from a place of wounding, it can traumatize yourself or create new trauma.
My invitation to you is to take on one or more of these practices. Practice in your everyday life with small things that are low risk, where there’s no great cost in learning, to distinguish between intuition and wounding or love and anxiety.
The focus of this podcast today is to anchor yourself in your being and whatever ways you do that. Connect body, mind, heart, and soul. Come into the present moment and learn to distinguish when your intuition is guiding you. When your wisdom is guiding you, or when your wounding, pain body or anxiety is trying to push you forward and control you.
Thank you for being here, it’s a pleasure to walk the soul purpose path with you.
You’re listening to the soul purpose podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people pleasing, create healthy boundaries, reclaim power, and live your soul purpose legacy.
You can access the Free Soul Success Journal & meditation and all episodes of the podcast and all the goodies mentioned in this episode at soulpurposepodcast.com/10
I believe in you and the magic power of your soul.
For more revolutionary teachings and tools please follow on your favorite podcast app or visit soulpurposepodcast.com. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.
I am sending you so much love!
by Christel | Sep 10, 2021 | Podcast
How many times have you been told to play nice? This real talk episode is focused on giving you permission to access your creative power, to play naughty and explore the question: what do I *REALLY* want to create?
I’m Christel Arcucci, you’re listening to the Soul Purpose Podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people pleasing, create clear boundaries, reclaim power, and live your soul purpose legacy.
This podcast is informational and this episode is a very special embodied journey of sensual hypnosis with energetic healing, I intend to seduce you with my voice.
Yes, seduce you into a greater, deeper, more delicious experience of your body and your soul purpose. I will use sounding, deep breaths to help you feel and integrate the teachings into your body and mind.
When I was a little girl, I dreamt of being an artist and writer.
The dominant culture says that artists struggle and aren’t good with money.
I became a healing artist instead, so I could focus on building a service and education business with jewelry design as a “artistic passion project”.
I am blessed to make a living doing work aligned with soul purpose. I always wondered if I could make more room for the artist and writer in my business…
A wild idea during the heart of the global reset in 2020 bloomed into a secret business, and the first month I made $560 from my art.
I have launched hundreds of business ideas, some have been successful and some have failed. I’ll share my take on failure in an upcoming podcast episode. The “failed” biz ideas have cost me tens of thousands of dollars over the years and I will never stop believing in and trying inspired ideas.
I have publicly proclaimed I would publish several books and delayed the latest book publication date (with my real name) due to fire evacuation and an unexpected move.
One year ago today I took a crazy chance… I selected a pen name and let myself PLAY and try something wild, new, unexpected, creative and naughty.
My wild creative artist dreamer generated $26,000 in the first year in this “side business.” I know there’s lots of talk about how peeps have made “6 figures in my first 6 minutes in business,” ok I am exaggerating a little. I am delighted with this success!
There is so much power in not hiding who you are, yet I have found incredible freedom in not giving a f-ck about what anyone thinks and letting myself play, dream, create and explore.
It’s a *REALLY* stressful time in the world, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed, afraid, confused, depressed, anxious, etc.
I invite you to take a crazy chance on your dream and do the f-cking creative-wild-artistic-and scary-thing. You can start small and in secret at first if that suits you.
A client messaged me today to let me know she received a $500 tip on top of her fee for a commissioned mural.
YES MORE PLEASE!
Sensual hypnosis to Awaken your Creative Power:
I invite you to make yourself very comfortable, allow your body to set up and whatever you’re sitting on. If you can lay down, that would be even better. Let your body settle and let your mind stay focused on my voice. Trusting my voice to guide you. Hmm. Yes. Guiding you feel your breath is moving without any effort.
Your breath is moving in and out without you even having to think about it. Breath, rising and falling breath, arising and falling. Your breath helping you feel more relaxed, more settled and more open.
I invite you to open your mouth and take a deep inhale in and exhale. Let it out with a sound or a sight or a naughty moan.
Going deeper.
And deeper into a creative and relaxed state.
Creative power lives inside of you. It is the power that is breathing your breath without any effort. No effort, just relaxation.
You find yourself standing at the top of the steps, walking down a 7 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, and 1.
Feeling so relax, standing in front of the crystal elevator, the doors slide open. Mm. Yes. And you step inside glittering gemstone buttons and you already know intuitively which one to select.
And the doors are closed, sliding down, down, down. Going deeply into your creative power.
Moving past any layers of resistance, not entertaining any thoughts and letting them float away, like little butterfly, no need to hold on or catch them. There’s so much more beautiful and they’re fluttering way. Brightly colored wings leaving streaks in the sky.
So relaxed, so open trusting yourself and this journey.
Listen to the podcast for the full journey.
Thank you for being here, it’s a pleasure to walk the soul purpose path with you.
You’re listening to the soul purpose podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people pleasing, create clear boundaries, reclaim power, and live your soul purpose legacy.
You can access the Free Soul Success Journal & meditation and all episodes of the podcast and all the goodies mentioned in this episode at soulpurposepodcast.com/9
If you are interested in exploring soul purpose mentorship options with me visit soulpurposepath.com to fill out an application.
I believe in you and the magic power of your soul.
For more revolutionary teachings and tools please follow on your favorite podcast app or visit soulpurposepodcast.com. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.
I am sending you so much love!
by Christel | Aug 29, 2021 | Podcast
Let’s play in the deep end with a shadow integration practice called: Love the Heart of Fear. What does the heart of fear mean? Is it possible to love fear?
I’m Christel Arcucci, you’re listening to the Soul Purpose Podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people pleasing, create healthy boundaries, reclaim power, and live your soul purpose legacy.
You may have noticed that episode 8 is weeks late. This episode is going to start with the real life challenges I am facing instead of the past episodes that focused on core elements of what I teach my clients.
The plan for episode 8 was, “Wounding or Wisdom – How to Heal your Intuitive Body.”
On a Tuesday a few weeks ago a FB live I created 4 years ago popped up in my FB memories “Loving the Heart of Fear.”
I watched it, impressed this lady named Christel Arcucci dropped some wisdom bombs about shadow work and transformation. 😉 I had the audio transcribed as inspiration for a future episode of the podcast.
Wednesday (the next day) a wildfire starts dangerously close to my home in Northern California. As soon as I hear about the fire, I checked to find out how close is it to my home and drive home, hoping I will still be able to collect my valuables and evacuate. I know the roads may already be closed…I’m driving towards a wildfire. The fire clouds and smoke are ENORMOUS AND TERRIFYING.
2016 the wildfires in California started impacting my friends, places I love and communities *VERY* near me. In late summer of 2020 after 4 years of this intense stress combined with dangerous air quality and the pandemic felt like hell. I swore to myself I wouldn’t and couldn’t stay through another fire season in California.
When I arrive home on I was already in fight or flight stress response. I’m grateful I made it home before the roads closed or the fire reached my home yet feeling overwhelmed about what to take, where to go or what to do next.
The FB video on Tuesday had given me a transmission of love for the fear that is now coursing through my heart and flooding my system with stress hormones. Reminder to pay attention to all the signs and resources you are offered to you even if they don’t make sense in the moment.
Now you see why this episode is focused on loving the heart of your fear and why I am weeks late in delivering this. In the last 5 weeks there have been 3 wildfires that threatened my home.
As you know I get off on befriending my shadows, loving my shame, loving my fear, and getting in there and being with those parts that I wish didn’t exist. It would be easier if life was just unicorns, rainbows and wildflowers right?
Earth School is the shadow integration masters program that you may have realized you signed up for yet cannot escape…. So let’s make this wild ride more enjoyable.
All kinds of protection mechanisms and survival strategies keep you from looking at your fears, help you avoid feeling pain sadness, grief, shame even desire or sexual arousal.
Your brain is wired to survive. To try to keep you away from what you fear in order to keep you safe in what is known and familiar.
Your journey of awakening who you are and your purpose is rooted in being able to embrace your full human experience and your ability to accept and even love yourself.
You can say all day, “I love myself I love myself I love myself I love myself.”
And there’s a part of your brain saying, “Yeah, but what about the horrible thing you did. What about that like horrible thing you said? What about swearing at the person that didn’t use their turn signal? Or what about when you were five? You are bad and wrong so you can’t LOVE THAT!”
It’s easy to love the pretty parts of yourself, easier anyway.
It’s harder to love the undesirable things about yourself, to love the bad things that you’ve said and done.
Dominant culture decides what is good or bad, right or wrong, acceptable or forbidden.
I’m exploring embracing my shadow, befriending the skeletons in my closet, rather than trying to pretend they’re not there, I invite them for tea.
It takes an enormous amount of courage to acknowledge and accept your shadow, let’s be real.
Shadow integration isn’t a casual thing you take up one day and it’s all grand and rosy with your skeletons carefully coming down out of the closet and sit at the table with you, they will likely throw shit and will likely be really mean at first.
So… is loving the heart of fear possible and why am I talking about it?
It’s an important part of your journey of healing and a central way to love those horrible parts of yourself.
This shadow integration practice doesn’t condone bad behavior or abuse from yourself or anyone else, but it is about loving the wounded parts of yourself and the collective. When you can do this inside yourself you’ll be better able to engage with the shadow aspects of others.
The heart is the softest most vulnerable, innocent and tender core element of everyone. When you turn into that truth it’s easier to imagine the possibility of loving the heart of anything that you most want to avoid or fear.
Start this practice by being willing to admit and be with your fear, doubt, shame, sadness, grief, addiction, victim, perpetrator, rescues etc.
All the parts of yourself that you wish didn’t exist and also the behaviors and traits which trigger you in others.
Acknowledge the shadows exists and be with them. “I see you”
Invite them into your journaling practice, meditation or mindful movement practice rather than pushing them away. “I feel you.”
The next level is to love your shadows.
Love the heart of your fear.
Love the heart of your deepest, darkest, scariest parts…the ones that you if could, you would throw them out of the universe. “I love you.”
I’ve discovered the heart of fear is where so much power lives. I will even go so far as to say unlimited power lives.
Tap into that power to be more aligned, on purpose and connected to who you are and what you’re really here to do.
The more that you run from fear, the more you run from being yourself. Is that’s a game you want to play?
Playing hide and seek with the infinite power of your soul is why you decided to become human, it’s so fun!
This is demonstrated in the 5 Acts (or Powers) of Shiva. The ability to create, maintain, destroy, conceal and reveal.
The game of playing hide and seek with each other and yourself is a fun game when you’re young… do you still the divine play now? Especially with the intensity of what’s happening in 2021 for example?
Although the way that adults most often play hide and seek is unconscious and full of shadow material most often we don’t even realize what and who you are hiding from.
Lila is a Sanskrit word that means Divine Play and is a powerful tool to help remind you of the conscious game of hide and seek that you decided to become human and “forget” that you are infinite intelligence.
Using your life force energy to hide who you really are and what you think is exhausting and painful, and can lead to illness, depression, anxiety and suppressed immune function.
I invite you today, at whatever level you’re ready is to turn towards your fear.
Name fear.
Be with fear.
Befriend fear.
Love the heart of fear.
Look fear in the eye and really be with what is there. Be willing to stay in the intensity and see what opens for you.
Im my practice of loving the heart of fear I like to practice this while eye gazing in the mirror. After a few breaths to drop in, it doesn’t take long before there’s a massive shift. As I’m able to feel the resistance to fear, the fear softens and opens. The resistance to feeling fear which is most often a desire to control in order to feel safe.
Resistance, the desire to push away or get away from takes so much energy.
With the practice of simply being with fear, being with doubts, demons, shadows or skeletons unlocks so many resources and power.
Loving the heart of what you what to avoid or destroy changes everything and changes it quickly.
Where are you in your journey of loving your fear, shadow and what you wish didn’t exist within you, others or the collective?
Be willing to be with your fear, love the heart of that what scares you most.
Love the heart of the most horrible things you’ve done in your life, love the horrible thoughts and you learn to love life itself, all of it.
I still often want life to be easy, playful, abundant and full of all my favorite things and the reality is that life on earth is the expression of spectrum of all possibilities and experiences.
My practice is anchoring myself in the moment with breath, mindfulness, and movement practices and then remember the divine play of life on earth, that humanity is actively co-creating this experience.
Love your shadow, it liberates you from struggling again what is and trying to control the uncontrollable.
Your shadows will act out when you try to get rid of them or repress them… the shadow will create trouble.
Love your shadows, shame, anger, rage, sadness as much as you can.
Be willing to turn towards, look in the eyes of the parts of yourself that you wish weren’t there, and love all parts of yourself. When you’re able to do that, then things will change in the outer world.
It’s so easy to run from the hard and ugly stuff. Oh, just keep yourself busy and do to anything to avoid looking at or being with fear.
Turn towards fear.
Be with anger.
Embrace sadness.
Sit with rage.
Love the heart of fear.
To the healing that is possible and the transformation that is available… love your heart, and love what you fear most.
Thank you for being here, it’s a pleasure to walk the soul purpose path with you.
You’re listening to the soul purpose podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people-pleasing reclaim power and create your soul purpose legacy.
You can access the Free Soul Success Journal & meditation and all episodes of the podcast and all the goodies mentioned in this episode at soulpurposepodcast.com/8
I believe in you and the magic power of your soul.
For more revolutionary teachings and tools please follow on your favorite podcast app or visit soulpurposepodcast.com. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.
I am sending you so much love!
by Christel | Aug 1, 2021 | Podcast
Are you creating connection or separation in your life and relationships? How can you choose to respond instead of be hijacked by a stress response or trauma pattern?
I’m Christel Arcucci, you’re listening to the Soul Purpose Podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people pleasing, reclaim power, and create your soul purpose legacy.
I am recording this episode in July 2021 it’s an incredibly intense time in human history with so many people experiencing extreme stress and daily challenges.
Two of the greatest concerns is the lack of recognition and support for a population that is working with dysregulated nervous system and the lack of ability to have meaningful discourse on charged topics. I believe the lack of ability to navigate conflicts is because of the first issue that and most people don’t know what this means to have a dysregulated nervous system and how to resolve it.
This amplifies the ‘power over’ dysfunction and limits the chances of coming into ‘power with’ a framework, I have talked about power over vs power with in almost every episode so far.
The basic idea of power with is we’re in this together. And how can we come to a solution rather than I’m going to try to overpower you or bully you into doing what I want.
So…. how can we as a collective come into balance even in a stressed state to be able to respond instead of react?
Today’s topic applies to every relationship in your life no matter what is happening in the world yet with the intensity of what is happening in the world it’s even more important to learn to self-regulate, navigate conflict skillfully and work together to create win-win solutions.
In the present time these topic are important and essential to humanities survival and not easy to implement.
Are you consciously choosing to create connection or separation? Including on social media
There are times that creating separation also called clear and healthy boundaries is the best choice if you’re in an unsafe place or unhealthy relationship.
The main focus of this episode is to be able to CHOOSE TO RESPOND instead of react from a stress response or trauma pattern.
The results of dysfunctional and harmful communication that is rooted in:
us against them
right or wrong
truth or lies
black or white
With us or against us
Either or thinking instead of ‘both and.’
Can you move into a state of ‘yes and’?
Notice, what happens in your nervous system the I ask that question?
There may be some topics that feel so charged for you that you can’t even, won’t even consider it.
And I ask you to take gentle breaths and be willing to explore this topic more deeply.
This is fueling the divide and remember that “divide and conquer” is a strategy of war that works… so who are you really fighting against?
Let’s work on the concept to agree to disagree, for some this idea is so threatening right now yet I believe not being willing or able to self-regulate is rooted in trauma and not the present moment circumstances.
You can have strong thoughts, options and beliefs about your position AND have a reasonable discussion about differences when you have two or more regulated nervous systems to engage.
Either or thinking is often the result of deeply held conditioning and or trauma.
I think humanity as a species is in a collective crisis and trauma response and my focus with this episode is to create connection, curiosity and “yes and” opportunities through our differences. I spoke how to utilize the improv practice of “yes and” as a shadow integration tool in ep 3 The Shadow side of Gratitude Practice.
I am not going to talk about specifics or my perspective or position on any of the HOT TOPICS because the focus is on creating connection even with different opinions, stress management, shadow work, integrating trauma and the power to choose by working with a ‘power with’ framework.
Are you creating connection or are you creating separation?
Humanity is at a tipping point and the question is will humanity come together and make it through this or fight, disagree and expedite the collapse of human civilization?… again.
Let’s talk about a powerful shadow work practice before going further…..Can you go to the mirror right now look into your own eyes and say, “I am a ________” fill in the blank of the topic you are most adamantly opposed to right now. Can you say I have the capacity to be and do that which I most want to avoid or hate most about humans?
I AM THAT.
BOOM. If you can do that and maintain a neutral nervous system you stop playing this show right now. If not keep listening and you’ll get closer to integrating the hardest and ugliest aspects of free will.
Free will gives us the choice and ability to do the most amazing and horrible things.
Let’s try an example. I talk about VPR victim-perpetrator-rescuer on the show.
Can you look into your own eyes in the mirror and say, “I am a perpetrator.” Or “I am a victim.” Or “I am a rescuer.”
Which one is the hardest for you to say. Which one is the easiest for you? Which one lands in the middle?
For me, the easiest one to say, and for most people will be, I am the rescuer.
And the hardest one for me to say is not, I am a perpetrator. The hardest one for me to say is I am a victim. There’s the most internal charge and resistance for, for me personally, since I don’t want to admit that I don’t want to be that. So, how does that land for you?
Of those examples its hardest for me to say, “I am a victim.” There is the most internal charge and resistance for me since I don’t want to admit that.
You may feel a lot of intense emotions with this practice you will be able to say it from a neutral perspective and little to no emotional charge.
Why is that?
Because that helps you to see that you can be any of those. Yet you are in a place of a regulated, nervous system, which allows you to choose to be the victim, the perpetrator, or the rescuer or not to be that is the whole point.
I also encourage you to do this practice with the hot topics you are feeling about the state of humanity today.
Shadow work is the ability to integrate and embrace ALL aspects of your shadow and light. The incredible and horrible. Free will gives you the creative power and opportunity to be a serial killer or a saint and anything and everything in between being able to regulate your nervous system is what gives you the power to choose who you want to be, how you want to show up and how you want to utilize the tools of connection and separation.
Good people generally don’t like considering the shadow aspects of what is possible to do as a human yet being willing to embrace this reality and work together in personal and collective shadow and trauma integration is a core part of healing humanity.
It’s ideal that you work with basic tools of understanding how to communicate when your nervous system is regulated and how to recognize your own nervous system being dysregulated or noticing it in somebody when you’re trying to communicate with. Practice coming back into a state of co-regulation, which simply means that you and the other person that you’re communicating with are in a state of rest and digest and not fight or flight.
If you are in a fight or flight stress response those are the only choices your brain registers in order to stay safe and survive and not about connection.
Fight or flight only cares about your survival and not about connection.
If you are in a fight stress response you will make the other person wrong, attack, defend name call etc
Your autonomic nervous system (ANS) controls the subconscious operation of your nervous system with two primary branches.
Sympathetic nervous system controls the fight or flight response
Parasympathetic nervous system controls your ability to rest and digest.
In the modern world most of the time the fight or flight response is set off in situations that are not life or death. You practice in the moment when you feel extreme stress is to ask yourself is this a life or death situation?
When the answer is no, take a beat, take a breath and anchor yourself in the present moment. Listen to Ep 5: Create the Future with a One Breath Meditation for more support with this.
Bring your system back into a rest and digest state where you can have a conversation with whoever you’re in the disagreement with
Step One: Self Regulate
1. Take a gentle breath
2. Notice sensations you are experiencing to connect with your physical body
3. Anchor your attention in present time to make sure that you are only dealing with the stress of the moment
4. Listening to your thoughts to notice how your system wants to react instead of respond
5. Breathe and stay in the present moment.
Step Two: Recognize the DAMN BS
1. Defend
2. Attack
3. Make wrong
4. Name call
5. Blame
6. Shame
All of these fight responses create more stress, separation and disconnection.
So then you go back to step one, anchoring yourself in your body. Breathing deeply notice sensations, even communicate with the person you’re talking to. I’m noticing I’m feeling stressed right now. I need to take a moment.
Step Three: Choose to respond
1. Be curious about what is possible
2. Dedicate yourself to creating connection instead of separation.
3. Agree to disagree
4. Take a breath regulate your stress system so then you can choose to respond can you learn to agree to disagree on any topic to be Curious
Be committed to looking for that place that you connect.
Be willing to look for your shared humanity.
go beyond separation to find the connection of our humanity
On a fundamental level I believe all people to have a good life for themselves and those around them.
Yet this is an epic time in history of extreme separation and destruction learn to self-regulate and then co-regulate with others and reclaim the ability to have meaningful discourse about topics we disagree about.
Ultimately I think all want to thrive, that desire may be expressed in different ways but essential seeking love and connection, shelter, food and purpose.
Are you willing to look beyond the external expressions?
they worship this God and don’t believe in god.
they want this thing to happen and I want something else to happen
they want this person to be elected and I want that person to be elected
They believe in this cause and I don’t
Can you tap into shared Humanity of living on the same planet and completely dependent upon the health of this Planet to survive?
Then move into a state of creating greater love and connection and having conversations about the things that we disagree about instead of attacking, defending, name calling… etc
Are you able to move out of stress response, be curious, compassionate and have conversations that have the potential of creating change?
This is not easy yet this is the most important practice to resolve conflicts, integrate trauma patterns, and create love and connection.
I am opposed to fueling the fire of division and separation, I believe we’re in this together. Do you want to work together to create a better world for everyone?
I’d like to see us learn to create an environment where we can have different beliefs and different perspectives yet have a fundamental core of commitment to love and connection that is where we move into human awakening and creating heaven on earth and integrating the collective shadow.
Thank you for being here, it’s a pleasure to walk the soul purpose path with you.
You’re listening to the soul purpose podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people-pleasing reclaim power and create your soul purpose legacy.
You can access the Free Soul Success Journal & meditation and all episodes of the podcast and all the goodies mentioned in this episode at soulpurposepractice.com
I believe in you and the magic power of your soul.
For more revolutionary teachings and tools please follow on your favorite podcast app or visit soulpurposepodcast.com. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.
I am sending you so much love!
by Christel | Jul 26, 2021 | Podcast
What can you do if your inner child easily gets overwhelmed and shuts down by the demands of your adult life? And how working with the inner wounded healer support rapid transform o childhood trauma?
I’m Christel Arcucci, you’re listening to the Soul Purpose Podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people pleasing, reclaim power, and create your soul purpose legacy.
As I am preparing this podcast, I feel the heaviness of this topic since it includes a discussion of childhood issues included unmet needs, family dysfunction, parenting styles, trauma, abandonment and abuse patterns. While I don’t include specific examples, the residual impact of trauma that has not been integrated is discussed which is a GOLD mine that can unlock self-love, self-understanding, self-honoring, self-respect and embracing the inner child issues wounds in order to reclaim innocence, play, curiosity, imagination and creativity.
Inner child healing happens in stages as you learn to re-parent your inner child which and take on the roles of the divine mother and divine father to yourself and your inner child no matter what your gender is, finding this dynamic integrated balance of masculine and feminine essence is a core part of healing.
Stage one of inner child re-parenting is establishing trust and make a commitment from your adult self to your inner child, that you will not ignore or neglect your inner child. If you had a challenging childhood I would encourage you to go further by committing to not abuse or abandon your inner child.
Your brain and nervous systems get hard wired in the first 6 years of your life and the treatment you received from your parents or caregivers becomes the baseline for how you let yourself be treated and how you treat yourself. The good news is the brain and nervous can be rewired with conscious and consistent practice, attention, and loving care.
If you’re new to inner child work rebuilding trust can take a significant amount of time because often in your adult life you’ve shoved your inner child into a closet or the basement. Perhaps you’ve even thought, “I’m an adult I need to carry on, that was my childhood and now I’m over that and I need to move on.”
The lack of integration or a position of denial reinforces stress or trauma patterns that were happening in your childhood which may include abuse, abandonment and neglect.
Even if you grew up in a healthy environment that did not have abuse or abandonment, things that happen in even a healthy childhood, can create stress patterns in your consciousness, which then get reinforced and played out in your life as an adult.
Yes, talking about abandonment and abuse is intense and those experiences are, yet many people have unresolved stress patterns or negative habit loops that come from experience childhood that felt traumatic to the child yet would not be considered abuse/abandonment.
Like being left to cry alone in the crib as a baby in order to learn to self-soothe even before you are psychologically capable of doing so or being told no. These experiences are not necessarily abuse and abandonment yet can create an imprint in the psyche that love equals being left or made to feel bad/wrong or unworthy of attention or love.
And as a human being, especially as a child, touch kindness care and love are the foundation of what creates a secure attachment and a deep understanding of what love really is for some of us. We have to reset those patterns and create them in our adult lives. That is the foundation of this work here.
Stage two is unconditional love and learning to accept, acknowledge, appreciate and love all aspects of the inner child the wonderful and wounded parts. This allows you to reclaim innocence, play, creativity and curiosity that most people of had squashed during your childhood.
Showing up in an unconditionally loving way with your inner child and keep in mind unconditional love IS NOT giving the inner child whatever it wants.
The foundational piece of learning to unconditionally love your inner child is the first step and for your inner child to trust that you will unconditionally love them and not abuse or abandon them is the foundation that needs to happen before anything else happens.
This mean being committed to not ignore or neglect your feeling, thoughts, emotions wounds, traumas as well as your dreams, time to play, create and rest.
Stage three begins when your inner child trusts you, you are practicing unconditional love and next you need to create healthy boundaries. This stage is where the wounded healer comes in, because many swing to the opposite side because needs were not met in childhood the wounded healer can swoop in to “save the day” and overcompensate for the unmet needs from the primary care givers. The wounded healer will them bend over backwards to give the inner child anything and everything it wants which will not create healing.
It just cultivates a feeling of being able to take advantage of and not needing to respect others
Approach re-parenting as if you were to parenting a real child. Often people think that inner child work is like you give the inner child whatever it wants, it doesn’t want to work, you don’t work. The inner child doesn’t want to do some activity so you don’t do that activity or you let them sabotage any plans for it’s whims.
And the challenge with that is like letting an unhappy five year old run your life and say “I want doughnuts for dinner, or drive you car even though I am not old enough, talk to your boss because I am pissed off or tell your partner to fuck off” and you say, okay, because that’s what the inner child wants = bad idea!
The wounded healer plays the “rescuer” and the inner child plays the “victim” while the parents/care givers are the “perpetrator”. I spoke about the trauma triangle in ep 1. VPR or victim, perpetrator, rescuer is a “power over” framework that will not support the inner child or the wounded healer to reclaim power and operate in a ‘power with” framework which is where deep healing and integration is possible.
Your job as a healthy parent aka empowered healer is saying no with kindness and create healthy boundaries for the child this is why I call it Inner Child Re-parenting and not just Inner Child work.
One of the most important teachings in caring for the inner child or a real child is creating healthy boundaries. You will listen, hear, see, love the child and what they want, but also teach them to receive a no and respect it, learn what is healthy, what is possible, and make choices from a foundation that balances present moment enjoyment with long term positive outcomes so that the inner child isn’t running and ruining your life.
As the parent you listen if a child is afraid, excited, overwhelmed, curious, sad, confused, etc.
Open hearted listening is essential to rebuild trust. Listen yet you don’t let the inner child run your life which leads to the wounded child and wounded healer down spiral.
The advantage to inner child re-parenting unlike raising a real child is you can come back later, send the child off on an imaginary adventure with a dragon or to play with a unicorn while you work.
You can have a conversation inside your mind and put things on hold while you’re attending to whatever activity is happening.
When Inner child wants your attention you say, “I hear you. What can I do to support you to feeling safe while I work or get things done?
Listen to your inner child and create healthy boundaries, then your life will transform quickly because the inner child trusts you to show up and take care of them, yet not let them take advantage of you so they will respect you, your authority and your guidance.
The process of reparenting your inner child never ends even if you had amazing parents and a dreamy childhood.
The focus is present moment power where the abuse and abandonment patterns have been cleared on a deep level, so that the inner child gets to be what it’s meant to be, which you may not have gotten in your childhood, the innocent, creative, curious playful part of you.
Healing so there is room for imagination, taking risks and believing anything is possible in your life are the results of this inner child re-parenting work.
This comes from the solid foundation of trust, love and boundaries because your inner child always knows that you’re going to be there and to take care of them. And at the same time, if they throw a temper tantrum, your life doesn’t get derailed because of it. The inner child is not running the show.
The integrated adult aka the empowered healer is running the show. Yet that first two stages are important to distinguish from the third stage where it’s about creating healthy boundaries.
Learn to communicate with your inner child, why something is happening, and also letting them know like, okay, we’re going to get our work done, and then we’re going to play afterwards. You know, just like you would with a real child is the child doesn’t get to run the show.
Be extra mindful about how you speak to the inner child abusive self-talk can be VERY COMMON if you had a critical or abusive parent or caregiver. If you wouldn’t say it to a REAL CHILD adjust what you are saying to match how you treat others and how you want to treat yourself.
The forth stage is when the adult part learns to admit, apologize and cleaning things up when you make a mistake.
This involves making a commitment to not abandon or abuse yourself and if you do to take accountability, apologize and commit to doing better when you make a mistake.
After many years of doing this practice my inner child trusts me and knows that if and when I mess up more like when, when I mess up, she knows that I will take accountability, and that I will apologize and I will make it right. Instead of reinforcing the abuse or abandonment pattern that happened in my childhood.
I started doing inner child work when I was 12 and my dad got sober. I was really lucky to have his support, accountability and love. I have been estranged from my mother since I was 14 and she DOES NOT and has not showed up in any helpful or meaningful way to clear the past.
I’ve had both experiences and I can say with certainty that you CAN heal the deep wounds from childhood while the parent that created the wounds does not even acknowledge the abuse or abandonment that occurred.
The empowered healer and integrated adult part of you is the one that creates the safe space for freedom for a play for in essence, taking these teachings into practice becomes an ongoing practice in your everyday life where. You can have a dialogue with your inner child either out loud while using touch as a way of reassuring your physical body and your inner child that you are present that you hear them.
You can do this simply by placing your hands on your body and saying, I hear you. I see you. I feel you. I love you.
You can do this while placing your hands on your body, on your belly on your heart, giving yourself a hug.
You can dialogue with your inner child as the empowered healer speaking to the inner child, either in your mind or out loud, as well as using reassuring touch, to deepen the work that you’re doing of establishing trust, unconditional love, creating healthy boundaries, taking accountability for any mistakes you make.
Being in relationship with your inner child so that they trust you to be in charge of your life, to know what’s best for them, which gets disrupted in childhood or in traumatic life events.
Being with the needs of the wounded inner child creates the opportunity for you to be present with and meet the needs in real time. In present time of unmet needs from your childhood is a deeply healing and helps to reclaim power in the present moment.
The dynamic relationship inner child and empowered healer helps you reclaim your power in the present moment by hearing your inner child by listening to their fears, their concerns, their sadness, yet them also trusting you to know what’s best when it comes to leading your adult life now.
The four stages of Inner Child Re-Parenting and becoming and Empowered Healer, it’s important to know where you are and know that you need to attend to all of them to create an on-going healthy relationship with your inner child and empowered healer.
Are you building trust?
Are you committed to unconditional love?
Are you establishing and maintaining clear boundaries?
Are you able to admit mistakes and clean them up?
These four stages will support you in reclaiming innocence, play, curiosity, creativity and integrate shadow aspects of your childhood and any residual dysfunction in how you speak to and treat yourself.
There’s a link to many additional resources the show notes: Build Trust with your Inner Child Audio, A Guided Meditation & Self-Love Healing Journey, and Self-talk and Unconditional Love Audio. www.SoulPurposePodcast.com/6
The ‘power with’ framework can be deeply healing for the relationship with yourself and everyone else in your life in order to reclaim power from the past and live and love in the present as you create a loving future.
You may have noticed I have not mentioned your parents, partners or human children at all so far…. and for good reason.
Doing the inner reset work and learning to self-regulate and be with ALL ASPECTS of your light and shadow helps ground you in your unmet emotional needs and the core wounds and conflicts you would like to try to resolve with your parents, children or your partner.
The reason is if you can not done the work to trust, love, create boundaries , clean up mistakes with yourself first you will continue to act out the dysfunctional dynamics from your childhood.
You cannot expect anyone else to trust you, love you unconditionally, respect your boundaries and navigate conflicts if you don’t already do this with yourself.
Note on the reality of trust, unconditional love, respect and navigating conflicts with other humans especially the ones closest to you, your parents, children and intimate partners… about to drop a bomb.
Deep breath:
HUMAN ARE NOT CAPABLE OF BEING 100% trust worthy, UNCONDITIONALLY LOVING or lovable and honoring of boundaries. Conflict and messes are inevitable, the most important part is how easily you can come back into love and connection after a bump in the road, or an epic fracture or rupture.
You and your people WILL FAIL at trust unconditional love, boundaries and navigating conflicts. Don’t buy into the “happily ever after myth,” it simply does not exist.
Just like sometimes you don’t love or even like yourself the same will be true in your closest relationships… that’s the real talk. If you can be with that truth, not fight it, not expect the impossible you will have more fun in navigating the challenges of human love and relationships with play, curiosity and creativity…. Oh it seems there’s a profound connection to what we’re talking about today.
When a child is safe, loved and respected they are honest, open and more able to go with the flow of getting hurt or misunderstood or not getting what they want.
This is the intention in your adult relationships too.
The reality is is dysfunctional relationships and abusive communication is GLORIFIED in our culture so most people have no idea what a healthy secure relationship even looks or feels like.
The only forever relationship in this life is with yourself and your self-trust, self-love, self-respect and self-talk are the framework that gets repeated in ALL YOUR OTHER RELATIONSHIPS.
So the point is to start there. Work on you in your relationship with yourself? Clear that first
While co-regulating with others is an essential part of healing and healthy relationships if you don’t trust, love or respect yourself you are literally not capable of that in your relationships with others.
If you have a parent, partner or child that is involved in your healing journey you can open transformational conversation to clear the past. I will post a resource in the show notes to navigate conflicts with compassionate communication.
Trust, love, safety, respect and accountability are the golden keys to healthy and secure relationships with yourself and others and are deeply healing especially for anyone that has suffered childhood trauma, abandonment or abuse.
This episode has been a LOT of intensity please take good care of yourself by drinking water, breathing deeply, going for a walk and asking for support if topic has brought up challenges you need support with.
If you are interested to explore working with me to help you integrate the challenges of your past trauma in order to live as an empowered healer in the present you can visit www.SoulPurposePath.com for more information.
Thank you for being here, it’s a pleasure to walk the soul purpose path with you.
You’re listening to the soul purpose podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people-pleasing reclaim power and create your soul purpose legacy.
You can access the Free Soul Success Journal & meditation and all episodes of the podcast and all the goodies mentioned in this episode at www.soulpurposepodcast.com/6
I believe in you and the magic power of your soul.
For more revolutionary teachings and tools please follow on your favorite podcast app or visit soulpurposepodcast.com. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.
I am sending you so much love!
by Christel | Jul 18, 2021 | Podcast
Your breath is the most powerful healing practice and awakening tool that you have with you at all times, and you are only using it a fraction of its capacity which means you are living at only a fraction of your capacity.
I’m Christel Arcucci, you’re listening to the Soul Purpose Podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people pleasing, reclaim power, and create your soul purpose legacy.
So what does the breath have to do with reclaiming power and embodying soul purpose?
In order to reclaim power, first you need to move from feeling stressed out, overwhelmed and sabotaging your success into a neutral place, where you can reclaim power.
Start by taking a slower, gentle and deeper breath…without forcing.
Feel More. Become more aware, present, and connected to your experience.
Recognize your level of stress and evaluate if you are in a stress response: fight, flight, freeze or please.
De-stress your system in order to reclaim power and take action in living your purpose by actively and consciously incorporating breath practices into your daily life.
Your breath is tool that’s always available, you’re only using a fraction of its power and you can only live a few minutes without breathing.
How do you move from breathing unconsciously minimally shallow breathing which actually perpetuates keeping you in the stress cycle to more consciously breathing?
Start with a simple One Breath Meditation practice.
The beauty of this practice is, it’s only one breath, and you can do it anywhere and any time it’s a gateway that is always available to you.
A secret to creating anchor practices in your life is connecting the practice to an activity that you are already doing.
You can choose to anchor the One Breath Meditation to anytime you hear a text message arrive, anytime the phone dings with a notification, or anytime your child calls your name. Being able to do the One Breath Meditation when your child calls your name is an advanced practice but if you do it, it will change everything by supporting you to respond instead of react.
Connect the anchor practice of the one breath meditation to a mundane activity that you’re already doing like walking through a doorway, drinking water, standing up, sitting down, washing your hands, or any number of activities that you most often do mindlessly.
When you first try to integrate this practice it can be helpful to write a sticky note in that location to remind you.
“Before (blank) activity do the OBM.”
Don’t make it more complicated.
Don’t attempt to start meditating for an hour a day.
If you struggle with stress and anxiety, trying to make yourself meditate for one hour a day if you’ve never successfully done a practice of meditation consistently is a fast track to creating more stress and reinforcing the failure soundtrack.
One breath meditation is literally only one breath and don’t be fooled into thinking it’s easy, you can still get off track and distracted in that short amount of time.
You need to know, this simple pause, reset and breath practice may be challenging to be fully focused in one full breath, one full inhale, one full exhale.
Don’t let this be fuel for the Inner Critic soundtrack.
Be playful and kind with yourself in this exploration.
The beauty of it is the one breath meditation practice, is if your mind wanders halfway through the inhale, you can just try again, you can laugh and say, “okay, my mind wandered let’s begin again, slow and deep inhale and focus on my breath slow and complete exhale.”
And the BOOM your mind wandered again, I didn’t even make it through one breath.
Here’s the thing this is simple and short practice prime territory for the inner critic to jump in and say mean things, don’t take the bait. If you do start saying mean things to yourself, STOP as soon as you notice.
Do not beat yourself up. If you have a habit of buying into the inner critic that you’re a failure, focus on letting this be an imperfect practice, practice, practice.
As soon as you notice the inner critic and be like, “thank you for your input and I’m going to start again… over and and over and over as long as you are breathing.
Do not let your inner critic bash your head in.
Let’s take an example… let’s say that you’re in your home and you open the door and as soon as you open the door, a stranger that you’ve never seen before starts screaming in your face, “you are such a loser! You’re always going to fail. You’re never going to be able to meditate! You’re always stressed out and you’re a terrible person because you can’t even focus for one simple breath.”
Would you invite them in for tea?
No, you would not, Not unless you have a humiliation fetish. Most likely would close the door, and you say, “wow, that person is deranged!
I want you to have the same boundary with the inner critic soundtrack in your mind…just close the door and you begin again.
Close the door on the inner critic and start again. Focus on one single breath in and one breath out.
I find further anchoring your attention with words can keep you mind more focused, it’s like giving a fussy baby colorful toy to play with… the child will be transfixed for a period of time.
This practice of using woods as an anchor for your mind’s attention during meditation is called “Japa Meditation” in the yoga tradition and the words you use are called a Mantra.
A simple sentence you can use to focus your attention, “I am focused on one relaxed breath in and one complete breath out.”
I like to say: Soul Body Breath
Repeating the phrase soul body breath supports me to integrate the soul, the body and the breath together, for me it’s feels like an activation and recode to weave together my body, mind, heart and being into the present moment.
Pick any statement or mantra that resonates with you and you could make a new one up each time to connect your intuition int your present moment experience and don’t make it complicated.
The One Breath Meditation is a Mindfulness practice as well which I find mindfulness practices are a great gateway to seated meditation especially if you struggle with anxiety.
One of my current mindfulness practices is relearning to play piano. I can see the exact moment when I am reading the notes and my mind wanders off because inevitably I make a mistake right then. My intention is to play my chosen piece through 3 times without making a mistake. And guess what, I rarely make it through when I am learning a new song. I almost always mess up when my mind wanders because the practice has not yet become automatic, and I don’t start screaming at myself about how I’m such a loser and I’m always gonna be a failure when it comes to piano I just go okay my mind wandered Let’s try again. Let’s try to stay more focus. Let’s focus on my breath. Yes? Yes!
Your focus with the one breath meditation is to anchor your attention to integrate the soul, body and the mind into your breath. The breath is most often unconscious since it’s happening needing the think about it. The practice of the soul body breath is the simplest way to bring your unconscious power into conscious awareness so you can direct your power into the purpose you desire to create in your life and business.
One breath meditation into an activity that you always do like for just one breath. Notice the saboteur sound track might kick in an attempt to keep you safe in the known space of unconscious action. Don’t take the bait.
The greatest power of this practice is to do just one breath many many many many times throughout the day.
For example before I sign into a social media platform, or check my email I breathe first.
I check in.
I STOP and ask myself, “am I logging for a distraction from feeling? or to connect or contribute: love, truth, kindness or beauty?
I often find myself unconsciously logging into to social media to procrastinate or because I feel lonely = which of course it a bad plan.
Instead I center myself and breathe and say in my mind or out loud, “soul body breath.”
I become present with myself and then I am in a more powerful place to post of connect. And if I was seeking distraction I’m less lonely and I can make a conscious choice to do something else that will bring my power back into my body mind.
Your practice for today is to weave in one breath meditation as an anchor practice to support you to transform your unconscious actions to empowered and embodied choices to create your purpose with power and pleasure.
Even if you already have a seated meditation practice I encourage you to also practice the one breath meditation, and see how deeply you can go and instantly be centered, focused and aligned.
If you’ve struggled with trying to create a consistent meditation practice or you’re feeling extremely stressed with what’s happening in the world right now…. I really encourage you to only work with one breath at a time.
Success creates more success.
And failure is often the trap door that opens into the failure spiral…and going down down down into the self sabotage, self destructive and maybe even self-loathing soundtracks. I encourage you, DO NOT TO GO THERE. Don’t do it my dear.
When you succeed one breath at a time, you will feel successful, and you will build on the feeling of success. Then you may move on to feeling accomplished and you’ll know you can build your life One Breath at a time.
It’s incredible powerful and magic and so easily over looked because it so basic.
Feeling good will happen more often when you de-stress your system and reclaim our power.
You will speak up.
You will connect.
You will share your truth.
You will create your bold vision be part of the change that needs to happen in the world right now.
Thank you for being here, it’s a pleasure to walk the soul purpose path with you.
You’re listening to the soul purpose podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people-pleasing reclaim power and create your soul purpose legacy.
You can access the Free Soul Success Journal & meditation and all episodes of the podcast and all the goodies mentioned in this episode at soulpurposepractice.com
I believe in you and the magic power of your soul.
For more revolutionary teachings and tools please follow on your favorite podcast app or visit soulpurposepodcast.com. I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.
I am sending you so much love!
